After our first date, I invited him back to my place, where I had every intention of having sex with him. We started making out and it was lovely. When the momentum stalled, I tried to get it on track by asking if he had a condom. Confused, yes, but not mad. I knew men like John existed — men who would want to get to know my personality before they got to know my vagina — but I had yet to come across one in the wild. At the time, I thought this was kind of romantic, if a little provincial.
Why Is it "Weird" When a Woman Wants Sex More Than a Man?
17 Reasons Why You Don’t Want to Have Sex Anymore
Those first several months of a new relationship are bliss: You can't keep your hands off each other. You're having sex once, twice, three times a day. You're having crazy sex, public sex, porno sex, hair-pulling sex. It's orgasm after orgasm and your brain is oozing those endorphins that make you feel in love and utterly alive.
Life happens, which means dry spells happen, am I right? No biggie—unless that dry spell morphs into more of a, well, severe drought. Wondering why don't I want to have sex anymore? Factors like stress, time, and kids can seriously zap your sex drive.
These are some typical complaints I hear as a certified sex and relationship therapist. Often what lies beneath these complaints is a raw sense of fear, sadness, and hopelessness. The truth is that, most likely, many things are contributing to your wife avoiding intimacy with you. The question is, what can you do about it? Who knows, a more fulfilling sex-life might be right around the corner.